I have found that there are two emotions in which all others stem from, love or fear. Love cannot exist in the presence of fear, and fear cannot withstand the power of love. As human beings, all of our actions flow from either a state of love or a state of fear. We are given the free will to choose whichever in which we prefer in the present. So I suggest you choose wisely. Love or fear? Or as Shakespeare once said “to be, or not to be”.
Many of you are probably scratching your heads in speculation, wondering how everything can be contributed to either two states. So I ask you, when you reach for that pint of ice cream after another exhausting day, are you doing so out of love for yourself or fear? More than likely if you considered the future stipulation of your present satisfaction, you would agree that it isn’t very self loving to pound down a pint of ice cream. So you might consider questioning why it is that you seek the comfort of something sweet from outside of yourself. What is it that you are attempting to avoid or address in the first place? If you do so, you will almost always find that the food you are feeding yourself is merely a means to fulfill an empty end. Food is the most commonly abused anti-anxiety drug, and exercise is the most successful and underutilized antidepressant. If you were truly choosing to come from a place of love, you would start by loving yourself and not through fleeting external gratification.
Now let’s take a look at relationships, how often do you find yourself frustrated or angry over someone else’s actions? That certain someone could be your mother, your best friend or your boyfriend. It’s all relative. Have you ever questioned what exactly was the source of your frustration? Unfortunately, the other person is the incorrect answer. Another’s persons actions are never a reflection of you, only how you choose to respond to their actions is. So why do we often choose to respond with anger and frustration when things don’t go our way? Because we are seeking to control the actions of another in the first place! We cannot control anyones actions but our own, so why live our lives in the illusionment that we can?
Furthermore, let us look at the world around us. The current political structure, the world of medicine, the justice system and the like. Why is it that a preferred political party and president is in control of a large portion of our lives? Why is it that the field of medicine with all of it’s advancements has failed to create a miracle drug to cure cancer, yet a handful of men were able to revolutionize the world with todays technology? Why is that another human being has authority over what legislation is passed that directly dictates our personal power? Why is that a human being is sentenced to death by another human being for an injustice they caused? What is justice anyway, and who determines the good from the bad?
All of these questions evoke the same answer, and the answer seems to always stem from fear. You craved that pint of ice cream to temporarily escape the feeling of sadness, which is almost always due to a fear of rejection. Rejection from others or rejection from yourself, you pick your poison whether you are consciously aware of it or not.
Oh and the interpersonal power struggles at play in all of relationships are a product of fear as well. Whether you are afraid over your lack of control, or again afraid of disapproval. In case you have failed to notice, our world is an external web of interpersonal power struggles. People seek to control one another because they fail to control the only person they can, themselves.
The field of medicine has failed to produce a miracle drug, because by doing so millions of doctors would lose control over their substantial paycheck. So doctors and various other professionals cling to their fear of potentially loosing the power of their paycheck. Our self-destructive species, seeks to create problems in order for them to be solved. For the doctor, the politician, the activist and the like, wouldn’t have occupations if they were to solve all of the worlds problems. So in order to assure the success of their profession, they avoid the problems and stick to unsatisfying solutions to shelter the original problem. Have you ever wondered why it is that while we have discovered immense amounts of medications to alleviate conditions, we have also discovered even more previously unknown and unrecorded conditions.
In addition, we are able to unwittingly point a finger at a killer and condemn him by sentencing him to death, without acknowledging that we are theoretically performing the same action that placed him in this position in the first place. The killers initial fear of another coerced him into killing someone, and our fear of the killer potentially killing someone else compels us to kill him. What do you think was the meaning behind Ghandi’s infamous statement, “an eye for an eye makes the whole world blind”. Fear for fear, has made us all fearful. The government seeks to control the people because of their fear that the people will rip one another to shreds if God forbid we lacked a legal system of limitations and a hierarchy of authority to implement those rules. As if human beings who are at the top of the food chain, and cognitive chain as well, are incapable of living in peace with one another. Because bears, lions and other “threatening” animals rip each other to shreds and fail to live in harmony. False, all animals would suffer from extinction if that were the case. Yet, the human animal who is ranked the most influential of all has been unable to live in harmony with its own species for hundreds of centuries. That doesn’t make much sense to me.
You see, we live in a world of relativity and thanks to Einstein we are able to be aware of this. This relative reality is created by polarities, in order to allow us to experience ourselves. When I say ourselves, I am not implying our physical selves necessarily, for the physical is impermanent. Rather, I am stating ourselves in a spiritual sense. If you believe in God then you understand the notion of spirit, if you don’t than please offer me at least a rational explanation as to why. I say rational, because the most rational thing to do is to believe in God. Why you might wonder? Because there is much in life that is unseen yet we don’t doubt the existence of it. For instance, a thought isn’t tangible, yet we all experience them everyday. Additionally, I have never been to China nor seen my physical heart, yet I don’t doubt the existence of either. Just because we can’t physically see something, doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. Much of the knowledge we gain in school we can’t even comprehend until we experience it in our everyday lives. God works the same way. Without experiencing the joy and wonder of God, you only know of him conceptually. You must experience his unconditional love in order to know him empirically. God will not seek you unless asked, and you can’t evoke the experience of Him if don’t allow it due to skepticism. God is unconditional love, that is His essence. That is also our own essence, for He made us in the perfect image of Himself. Again, this essence cannot be understood conceptually rather emotionally through our experience. God has given us free-will to choose our lives, because he unconditionally loves each and every one of us. Unconditional love is never forceful for that reason we are given free will. With our free-will we can either align our lives with love or live them in fear. Since God is unconditional love, fear is an illusion, because fear is the opposite of love. Love is the only absolute truth in this reality of relativity. When we choose to align ourselves with love we experience heaven on earth, when we choose to align ourselves with fear we live in hell, metaphorically speaking. Hell is not a place, rather a state of self-enslavement due to fear. Self-enslavement because our “selves” are essentially love, and we allow fear to imprison our essence which is love. So as you can see, we are responsible for our lives and our overall state of being. Which will you choose, love or fear? The question remains, to be or not to be?